Next Gen Life - eMagazine Sept 2019 - Page 43



To help you decide whether you’re ready to start a meaningful conversation, ask yourself:
AM I READY?
Am I in a good headspace?
Am I willing to genuinely listen?
Can I give as much time as needed?
AM I PREPARED?
Do I understand that if I ask how someone’s going, the answer could be: “No, I’m not”?
Do I understand that you can’t ‘fix’ someone’s problems?
Do I accept that they might not be ready to talk? Or they might not want to talk to me?
PICKED MY MOMENT?
Have I chosen somewhere relatively private and comfy?
Have I figured out a time that will be good for them to chat?
Have I made sure I have enough time to chat properly?
HOW TO ASK
1. ASK R U OK?
Be relaxed, friendly and concerned in your approach.
Help them open up by asking questions like "How are you going?" or "What’s been
happening?"
Mention specific things that have made you concerned for them, like "You seem less
chatty than usual. How are you going?"
IF PUSH BACK...
If they don’t want to talk, don’t criticise them.
Tell them you’re still concerned about changes in their behaviour and you care about
them.
Avoid a confrontation.
You could say: “Please call me if you ever want to chat” or “Is there someone else
you’d rather talk to?”

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